Day 131: 7-22-20 (Wednesday)
Not sure what she is going to do without her boy for two years!
By the time Jordin and Ramon left we had to jump in the car and head for the airport. We got there much too quickly! We had arranged to have a parking lot meet up and send off. Reilly and Hunter were there when we pulled in and Abbey and her parents too. Meki and the kids arrived soon after we got there. We tried to limit the people seeing him off. COVID. These are the people that we have been around during quarantine and these are the people that he is closest to minus his good friends that he said goodbye to yesterday.
Abbey and her parents. They are such great people. They aren't members...aren't even religious... and they have been so supportive and loving to Kam. They just adore him and have loved him as much as we love and adore Abbey! It's so nice when that happens!
All too soon it was time to go into the airport. We said goodbye to Abbey and her parents. On the way to park we saw that Meki had a flat tire. We had already pulled out of the parking lot so she was on the side of the road heading into the airport terminal lanes. Horrible timing and horrible location. Poor Meki. She so wanted to see Kam off but couldn't leave the truck. Hunter stayed with her and started helping her change the tire. We grabbed Kirin and Kaiya and took them with us and headed into the airport.
The airport wasn't allowing big groups to see people off but our little group made the cut and we were able to go in and be there while he checked his bags and then headed to security.
We took some measurements so that we could see how much everyone will have grown by the time Kam gets back.
And just like that Kameron walked out of childhood and into adulthood. My heart was bursting with pride and joy over the young man that he has become and breaking at the same time.
Thank goodness Meki was still stranded on the side of the road because walking out of that airport was one of the hardest things that I have ever done. It was good that we had to go rescue her!! My friend Amber described it perfectly... Hardest Best Day Ever.
By the time we got back to Meki... her spare still wasn't on and we had the airport security, local police, and Hunter working on it. Tyler joined in on the fun. They finally got the tire off (it didn't want to budge) and the spare on and then they were ready to roll. Ailey and Bryn jumped in with them and Meki took them back to the lake. Best sister ever! We were all a blubbering mess so Tyler, Hunter, Reilly, and I drove to the nearest DQ to eat our feelings. Sometimes you need ice cream at 11 am. (Not our first time.) After that Reilly and Hunter headed back to work and Tyler and I headed home.
Kirk and Meki invited some friends and some of Meki's family to spend the week out at the lake with them. I knew that I wouldn't be up for socializing on the day of Kam's departure and I was right. It was good that Tyler and I had some alone time. We had the rest of the day to process and by process I mean that I sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. Then I would take a break for a few hours and then sob again. Kids leaving the nest is HARD! Have I mentioned that?
We finished packing up and cleaning (grrrr!!) Kam's room. We moved Tyler's "home office" into it. That was a project that took us all day! How is that boy such a slob?! A couple of hours later we got a text and picture from Kam's mission president and his wife letting us know that Kam had arrived safely in Minneapolis.
Later Kam FB messaged us too. It was a relief to actually hear from HIM. I don't love having to go through a third party to get information about my kid. This mission is going to be a learning experience for all of us.
Later tonight night we had another good distraction. My brother flew in from SLC at 10 pm. Tyler and I picked him up at the airport and drove him out to the lake. It was so good to see him and to laugh and talk with him! He is such a character so I couldn't be too teary and morose. I think Tyler was thrilled to have someone else around. A weeping and wailing wife isn't super fun although he was teary-eyed quite a bit today too. I am so grateful for all of the friends and family who checked in on us today. It helped and we felt super loved and supported. We hung out at the lake for a bit and then headed back home. Ailey was spending the week out there with Kaiya.
Day 132: 7-23-20 (Thursday)
I woke up at 4:30 am this morning. I realized that it was 6:30 am in Minneapolis and that Kam would just be getting up and starting his first official day in MN. I said a prayer for him. Tyler said that he did the same thing this morning. Today was a pretty quiet day. One of our aunts and three of our uncles were out at the lake going through some old garages. Ugh. Annoying. I was on call to help Kirk if needed. Kirk is actually the best one to deal with them. He can be firm and he doesn't get easily triggered by them. I did get a few phone calls about some of their antics and I was especially grateful that he was dealing with them and that I was not. What is it with greed and entitlement when someone dies?
Since this may be Kirk and Meki's last summer at the lake they invited up a bunch of friends and family members on Meki's side. I am glad that they are getting an opportunity to enjoy the place. Lately every visit has been a point of contention and problems with our siblings. There were quite a few people out at the lake with Kirk's guests and then the aunts and uncles. It seemed wise to stay away for COVID reasons. Too many people from too many places.
I talked to Abbey today. It's her birthday. She is coming to water all of my flowers and to take care of things at the house while we are out at the lake next week. I cried about missing Abbey. (So emotional these days.) She is awesome and I will miss having her around.
Reilly checked in multiple times today to see how I was doing. No uncontrollable sobbing. So that's progress. LOL. I REALLY appreciate all of our sweet friends and family who have checked in on us and me in particular. Not that Tyler wasn't weepy yesterday too. He misses his buddy and sidekick. Now it's just a house full of girls! I didn't realize how hard it would be to send a missionary out. I mean I understood that you would miss them but it's HARD. I will definitely been checking in on my friends when their kids head out for missions. It is similar to when Reilly left for school in Utah but as hard as that was... and it was hard... I could text, track, and call her anytime I wanted. This is worse. My hat is off to those parents who only got phone calls twice a year! Those are some strong mamas.
Pictures from Ailey. She and Kaiya are having a great time togther!! I love that they are getting some fun cousin time:
We purchased new big tent and Tyler and Bryn are going to sleep out in the yard tonight. What is the allure? I don't get it. LOL. I watched The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and coped.
Day 133: 7-24-20 (Friday)
The aunts and uncles are back out at the lake and they are an absolute nightmare! Poor Kirk! Tyler and I ended up driving out there. I was in an absolute FURY!! This sounds terrible but I am so sick of extended family. Everyone is greedy, selfish, and money-crazed. Why does everyone feel that they are owed something? It made me physically sick. Well... God had other plans rather than the wrath of Kristin coming down HARD on them. Unfortunately! We encountered road block after road block on our drive out to the lake. Unexpected construction, car accidents, detours... by the time I arrived they were gone. Probably for the best as there is no reasoning with any of them. It just would've been a shouting match. Kirk took the brunt of so much anger and animosity from them. I felt so bad for him.
Kirk and Meki and friends were awesome and we stayed for quite awhile (outside and social distancing) and had a really good visit with everyone. Good grief... what a day! It was emotionally exhausting on top of emotional exhaustion on top of more emotional exhaustion. But it was delightful that the aunts and uncles were gone and not coming back!
Bryn joined Ailey and stayed out at the lake too. She had a blast with all of the family friends and cousins! Reilly and Hunter came out for a bit as well. Ailey and Kaiya pulled an all-nighter. They love doing this every time they are together! LOL.
Day 134: 7-25-20 (Saturday)
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Tyler and I spent most of the day in the boat dragging kids around the lake in the tube and we loved every minute. This is exactly what the boat and lake are for! When we weren't in the boat we were having great conversations with all of those who were there. Good deep soul-filling conversations. It filled my well!
We had such a great time and really enjoyed our visit with everyone! It was a great group of beautiful people on a beautiful night in a beautiful place. I don't take things like that for granted anymore.
Day 135: 7-26-20 (Sunday)
Kirk, Meki and family left today. I hate saying goodbye to them! Our families cherish our time together.
Our week at the lake officially started. It was good to have a decompression day. So much had been going on the week before. So much stress. It was nice to relax on the dock, lay in the sun, swim, and read a book. The weather was beautiful. We got take out for dinner and did a sunset boat cruise (we love doing that!), and chilled. It was just what we needed.





