Thursday, December 22, 2022

One Day Hour by Hour



Every year one of my favorite podcasters, Laura Tremaine, does a One Day HH Challenge. An hour by hour look at a random day in your life. I decided to participate but post it here rather than on social media. This year the day was Monday November 14, 2022.

Here's a look at my day on a Monday in November:

7 am:


My day began at 7am. I usually get up between 6:30 and 7am. Tyler leaves for work super early and gets to the office by 6am. Bryn comes in every morning to make sure that I am awake.

8 am:


Bryn had early morning volleyball practice.

9:00 am:


After dropping Bryn off at school I did my daily scripture study, prayer, and journaling. At 9 am I did some blogging.

10 am:


Ailey called and I talked to her for about an hour while she was in between classes and I was doing things around the house and working on Sisters Creed projects.

11:05 am:


I started decorating our family room for Christmas.

12:11pm:


I ate lunch. Today it was La Croix and a Luna bar.

1:19 pm:


I talked to my advisor at BYU about going back to school. Exciting and scary!

2:05 pm: 


Still decorating the family room.

3:08 pm:


Reilly came over after she got off of work and brought us a bunch of to-go hot cups that I ordered from her. Bryn likes to take hot chocolate with her early in the morning. Reilly also surprised me with a boba drink!

3:50 pm:


In the carpool lane picking Bryn up from school.

4:38 pm:


Tyler and I went walking at the park to try to catch the last rays of daylight. The pond had frozen over and everything looked so beautiful!

5:30pm: Dinner 

6:30 pm: Talked to Ailey again.

(I forgot to take pictures! It's harder than I thought to remember to take a picture every hour.)

7:25 pm:


Drove Bryn to piano lessons. She and another girl take late piano lessons to accommodate their sports schedules. Thea is at 7pm and Bryn is at 7:30pm. I am so grateful that my friend Jodi (Bryn's piano teacher) offers late lessons! 

8:20 pm:


Ran to the grocery store with Tyler to grab a few things that we needed.


Kameron called while we were at the store.  He told us to try the new holiday Redbull flavor. Fig Apple. Tyler and Kam like it and I don't. It tastes like neither an apple nor a fig. It tastes like black licorice to me. Disgusting.

9:34 pm:


Checking on Bryn who was still working on homework.

10 pm:


A quiet and semi-decorated house.

10:32 pm:


In bed. My face washed and skin care routine done. Vitamins taken and teeth brushed. Reading my book. Tyler was still up watching a show. He stays up later than me. I lasted about 10 minutes before I fell asleep.

One Day HH in the books. Not very exciting but an *almost* hour by hour glimpse of a random Monday in November.


Wednesday, December 14, 2022

Fall Book Reviews 2022

 1.) Shadow Divers by Robert Kurson


This was my book club's pick for September 2022.  We've read a lot of nonfiction in my book club this year and most of it has been pretty heavy. Therefore I wasn't too excited to *dive* in to this nonfiction read. I think our book club needs to do a slightly better job of mixing up the genres next year.

From Goodreads:

For John Chatterton and Richie Kohler, deep wreck diving was more than a sport. Testing themselves against treacherous currents, braving depths that induced hallucinatory effects, navigating through wreckage as perilous as a minefield, they pushed themselves to their limits and beyond, brushing against death more than once in the rusting hulks of sunken ships. But in the fall of 1991, not even these courageous divers were prepared for what they found 230 feet below the surface, in the frigid Atlantic waters sixty miles off the coast of New Jersey: a World War II German U-boat, its ruined interior a macabre wasteland of twisted metal, tangled wires, and human bones–all buried under decades of accumulated sediment. 
No identifying marks were visible on the submarine or the few artifacts brought to the surface. No historian, expert, or government had a clue as to which U-boat the men had found. In fact, the official records all agreed that there simply could not be a sunken U-boat and crew at that location. Over the next six years, an elite team of divers embarked on a quest to solve the mystery.

This book was informative and full of interesting historical facts. I enjoyed learning more about deep wreck diving, the culture, and the community. It was fascinating and terrifying to read how the divers often put their lives in danger to retrieve artifacts (like dinner china) from underwater wrecks. I felt armchair anxiety reading about nitrogen narcosis, decompression sickness, and all of the other ways to die underwater.

It was also interesting to learn more about German U-boats/submarines which were topics about which I had zero prior knowledge. I particularly liked the last third of the book as we learned more about the crew who were onboard that particular submarine.

Sometimes I felt like the book got a little bogged down. As the pace slowed and the detailed descriptions increased, my interest would sometimes wane. I kept reading to find out the identity of the wreck and the fates of divers Chatterton, Kohler, and Nagle. One of my favorite parts of the book was the post publication interview with Chatterton and Kohler that is included at the end of the audiobook. The author interviewed the divers to ask them some questions that he had wondered about since finishing the book. Very interesting.

My Rating: Okay. It's not my typical genre which makes it a perfect choice for a book club.

2.) The Book of Difficult Fruit by Kate Lebo


This was the Spokane is Reading pick for 2022. Yay! Spokane is Reading is finally back after a long COVID hiatus! This year they picked a local Spokane writer...but still...it's back. Thank goodness!

From Goodreads:

Inspired by twenty-six fruits, essayist, poet, and pie lady Kate Lebo expertly blends natural, culinary, medical, and personal history.. In this work of unique invention, these and other difficult fruits serve as the central ingredients of twenty six lyrical essays (and recipes!) that range from deeply personal to botanical, from culinary to medical, from humorous to philosophical. The entries are associative, often poetic, taking unexpected turns and giving sideways insights into life, relationships, self-care, modern medicine, and more. What if the primary way you show love is to bake, but your partner suffers from celiac disease? Why leave in the pits for Willa Cather's Plum Jam? How can we rely on bodies as fragile as the fruits that nourish them?

This is a book of essays. A-Z essays...not my favorite essay format. And essays aren't for everyone. This book isn't for everyone. Some essays were more interesting than others. In this book the author weaves obscure facts about lesser known fruits with facts about her personal life. Two books in one. It's cookbook meets hipster memoir. Her writing is folksy at times and trying to be edgy at others. I'm not quite sure what this book was trying to be. A little bit of everything? There are also parts that are quite repetitive. We get it...pits have cyanide! Kate Lebo lives in my town and I very much enjoyed reading about local places and people. 

I had the opportunity to listen to her speak and do a reading from her book at an author event. I always enjoy listening to an author discuss their work and writing process. She did a very long reading on the Juniper chapter. It was interesting how she chose the particular fruits, the research that she did, and the parts about her family. I wanted more of her family story...the secret aunts...the famous musician boyfriend with celiac. I had questions. They weren't answered in the book nor in person, unfortunately.

I enjoy a food memoir and I often enjoy a book of essays but this was a little too all over the place for me. I did come away craving jam and wanting to try some of the more unusual and hard to find fruits. I also learned some interesting obscure fruit facts along the way.

My Rating: So-So.

3.) Book Lovers by Emily Henry

I enjoyed Emily Henry's previous book Beach Read. It was a romance novel with a little more substance. I was hoping that this book would be similar. It was even better.

From Goodreads:

Nora Stephens’ life is books—she’s read them all—and she is not that type of heroine. Not the plucky one, not the laidback dream girl, and especially not the sweetheart. In fact, the only people Nora is a heroine for are her clients, for whom she lands enormous deals as a cutthroat literary agent, and her beloved little sister Libby. Which is why she agrees to go to Sunshine Falls, North Carolina for the month of August when Libby begs her for a sisters’ trip away—with visions of a small-town transformation for Nora, who she’s convinced needs to become the heroine in her own story. But instead of picnics in meadows, or run-ins with a handsome country doctor or bulging-forearmed bartender, Nora keeps bumping into Charlie Lastra, a bookish brooding editor from back in the city. It would be a meet-cute if not for the fact that they’ve met many times and it’s never been cute. If Nora knows she’s not an ideal heroine, Charlie knows he’s nobody’s hero, but as they are thrown together again and again—in a series of coincidences no editor worth their salt would allow—what they discover might just unravel the carefully crafted stories they’ve written about themselves.

This book was pure fun! I enjoyed Emily Henry's writing. It's smart and funny. The author good-naturedly pokes fun at romance novels, common romance tropes, and Hallmark-esque movies. I loved it! I especially enjoyed the witty fast-past banter between the two main characters. Emily Henry writes books that are a little more nuanced and realistic than your average romance novel and I appreciate that. Her characters are well developed and I was invested in their stories and their fates. I loved that the story takes place in the book publishing world. One character is a literary agent and the other is an editor. Then the book jumps to a small town in North Carolina. Even better! I delighted in all of the literary allusions and pop culture references that were sprinkled throughout the book. I found the novel to be charming and fresh. A welcome break from the other books I've read lately.

My Rating: I loved it! A fun rom-com that doesn't take itself too seriously.

4.) Verity by Colleen Hoover



I've seen this book everywhere. Everyone is reading Colleen Hoover. People rave about her. I've never read anything written by her so I decided to give a Colleen Hoover a try.

From Goodreads:

Lowen Ashleigh is a struggling writer on the brink of financial ruin when she accepts the job offer of a lifetime. Jeremy Crawford, husband of bestselling author Verity Crawford, has hired Lowen to complete the remaining books in a successful series his injured wife is unable to finish. Lowen arrives at the Crawford home, ready to sort through years of Verity's notes and outlines, hoping to find enough material to get her started. What Lowen doesn't expect to uncover in the chaotic office is an unfinished autobiography Verity never intended for anyone to read. Page after page of bone-chilling admissions, including Verity's recollection of what really happened the day her daughter died. Lowen decides to keep the manuscript hidden from Jeremy, knowing its contents would devastate the already grieving father. But as Lowen's feelings for Jeremy begin to intensify, she recognizes all the ways she could benefit if he were to read his wife's words. After all, no matter how devoted Jeremy is to his injured wife, a truth this horrifying would make it impossible for him to continue to love her.

I loved the premise of this novel. I especially loved the story-within-a-story format. I was drawn right in and couldn't put it down. It was a super quick read. It was definitely page-turning and suspenseful but it was also disturbing. There are a lot of trigger warnings...child abuse, violence, gratuitous graphic sex. It was too much for me. I thought this was going to be a haunted house romance and it ended up being something darker. I also needed more character development from Lowen and Jeremy and less from Verity. Her dark twisted *sharing* made me nauseous. 

This is Hoover's first thriller. She normally writes romance novels. I liked the setting and thought that the plotting was okay but her writing was meh. The ending was polarizing (as everyone said it would be.) I thought it was disappointing and a cop out.

My Rating: Not great. I don't get the hype.

5.) The Rules of Magic by Alice Hoffman



I actually started reading this book last winter just as we were heading into the holidays and while I liked it; I didn't finish it. I am a seasonal reader. I couldn't read what was clearly (to me) an autumn/Halloweenish book around Christmastime. I had a hard time getting in to it so I DNFed it and decided to wait until this fall. It was a great idea! I picked this book up again in October and it was the absolute perfect fall read!

From Goodreads:

For the Owens family, love is a curse that began in 1620, when Maria Owens was charged with witchery for loving the wrong man. Hundreds of years later, in New York City at the cusp of the sixties, when the whole world is about to change, Susanna Owens knows that her three children are dangerously unique. Difficult Franny, with skin as pale as milk and blood red hair, shy and beautiful Jet, who can read other people’s thoughts, and charismatic Vincent, who began looking for trouble on the day he could walk. From the start Susanna sets down rules for her children: No walking in the moonlight, no red shoes, no wearing black, no cats, no crows, no candles, no books about magic. And most importantly, never, ever, fall in love. But when her children visit their Aunt Isabelle, in the small Massachusetts town where the Owens family has been blamed for everything that has ever gone wrong, they uncover family secrets and begin to understand the truth of who they are. Back in New York City each begins a risky journey as they try to escape the family curse.

This is the prequel to Practical Magic which I also enjoyedAlice Hoffman does magical realism to perfection. Her first book Practical Magic is probably the weakest of the series. I loved being immersed in the world of the Owens family. The characters are rich and wonderful. The characters in Practical Magic are the weakest too. Each subsequent book just gets better and better as we learn about the other family members and their histories. I loved them all. Each member of the Owens family was interesting and complex. I rooted for all of them and wanted all of them to find lasting love and happiness. I cheered for them and my heart broke for them. I love this family of witches!

The writing is fantastic. It is very cinematic with beautiful descriptions. Hoffman's world building (over the course of all of her books in this series) is visually stunning. The experience of reading her work is magic in and of itself. 

This is a book about love that is told through the story of a multi-generational family of witches. Each with their own interesting histories of loves, losses, family drama, and learning to choose courage. Through the years the Owens family learns to accept themselves for who they are and come to realize that it is worth it to love others and that they are worthy of being loved in return. 

In this novel we follow the lives of Frannie, Jet, and Vincent as they come of age in New York City in the 1960s. We get the back story of the aunts from Practical Magic and I loved every minute of it! Despite being set in the 60s (not my favorite time period to read about) I couldn't put it down. The Owens family has such a sense of timelessness to them that I often forgot what decade I was reading about and just fell in love with the characters. There is one more installment in this series and I will be saving it for next fall. I don't want my time with the Owens family to end!

Brilliantly and poetically written I was mesmerized by this lovely book (and series) which has quickly risen to become one of my very favorite book series. 

My Rating: I loved it!


6.) Birthright by Timothy Alberino



I heard Timothy Alberino on a podcast and my curiosity was piqued. He is out there in many ways. This is his take on the Universe, its origins, and future happenings. 

From Goodreads:

The earth and distant extraterrestrial worlds are reeling in the wake of war and ruin. A powerful insubordinate prince, personified as the dragon, the devil, and satan, has mounted an unsuccessful insurrection against the kingdom of heaven in a battle of unimaginable destruction. The planets in our solar system, once teeming with life, have been laid waste and left to careen in their orbits, desolate and empty. After untold eons of inundated oblivion, the time has finally come to restore the terrestrial realm and appoint a new regent to govern it, Adam, the first man. This is the preamble to the story of mankind. The offspring of Adam have forgotten the patrimony and purpose of their race. Now faced with extinction at the hands of an alien adversary, it is high time for them to remember... Timothy Alberino retraces the pages and reveals the secrets of the greatest story ever told, the one in which we are all inescapably embroiled. From the galactic rebellion in the pre-Adamic past to the creation of mankind on Planet Earth; the fall of the watchers in the pre-Flood world to the machinations of Luciferian forces in modern times; the unveiling of the alien presence to the final battle at Armageddon; Alberino unpacks the synchronicity of these events with scholarly precision and leaves you breathless on the brink of a posthuman apocalypse.

This book is definitely out there! It got my imagination going looking through his lens at the Bible and his interpretation of scripture. To me it is a blend of his own brand of religious theory and sci-fi. Interesting and creepy. Perfect for October. I took it all with a large grain of salt! But it was definitely fun to discuss his theories with my spouse! I liked the first half of the book better than the last half. I enjoyed his theories about Adam more and was less into his theories about aliens.

My Rating: Out there... yet enjoyable.


7.) Dreamland Burning by Jennifer Latham


This was my book club's selection for October 2022. It is a YA historical fiction/murder mystery told by dual timelines and two POVS.

From Goodreads: 

When seventeen-year-old Rowan Chase finds a skeleton on her family’s property, she has no idea that investigating the brutal century-old murder will lead to a summer of painful discoveries about the past, the present, and herself. One hundred years earlier, a single violent encounter propels seventeen-year-old Will Tillman into a racial firestorm. In a country rife with violence against blacks and a hometown segregated by Jim Crow, Will must make hard choices on a painful journey towards self discovery and face his inner demons in order to do what’s right the night Tulsa burns.

I had no idea about the Tulsa race riots and massacre. "Following World War I, Tulsa was recognized nationally for its affluent African American community known as the Greenwood District. This thriving business district and surrounding residential area was referred to as “Black Wall Street." (Tulsa Historical Society) On June 1st, 1921 it was burned to the ground by a white mob. Hundreds died that day. It was heartbreaking to read about the events that transpired. As awful as it was to read, I am glad that this book is creating awareness and bringing attention to this terrible time in history.

This was a quick and propulsive read. The author does a great job of building tension. I worried nonstop about who the skeleton would turn out to be. The dual timeline was necessary for the mystery part of the novel although I much preferred the timeline in the past. The whole novel could have been based in the past and been just as effective and evocative. 

The character of Rowan was the weaker of the two narrators. Her character helped the reader to see how racism still exists and how far we still need to go. But I wish that Rowan had more depth. It would have also been interesting to learn more about Will's mother and her Osage heritage and the history (also terrible) which will follow the Osage people a few years later.

This is a great book to hand to any teenager or adult. It is an interesting story and brings to light a horrible little known piece of American history. Every American should know what happened on that terrible day in 1921.

My Rating: A heartbreaking and important read.

8.) The Ex Hex by Erin Sterling



This was a fun Halloween rom-com. Think Hallmark holiday movie but it's Halloween instead of Christmas. I wanted something fun and seasonal for October and I don't love scary books so this fit the bill.

From Goodreads:

Nine years ago, Vivienne Jones nursed her broken heart like any young witch would: vodka, weepy music, bubble baths…and a curse on the horrible boyfriend. Sure, Vivi knows she shouldn’t use her magic this way, but with only an “orchard hayride” scented candle on hand, she isn’t worried it will cause him anything more than a bad hair day or two. That is until Rhys Penhallow, descendent of the town’s ancestors, breaker of hearts, and annoyingly just as gorgeous as he always was, returns to Graves Glen, Georgia. What should be a quick trip to recharge the town’s ley lines and make an appearance at the annual fall festival turns disastrously wrong. With one calamity after another striking Rhys, Vivi realizes her silly little Ex Hex may not have been so harmless after all.

This was book was light, fluffy, and a little cheesy. There were witches, magic, ghosts, curses, and romance. Perfect Halloween vibes. It was also humorous and entertaining. I loved the setting of the small quaint town of Graves Glen and its love of Halloween. I liked the characters of Vivi and Rhys and the second chance trope. This is a romance so there are some steamy scenes. This isn't a deep and thoughtful read. Enjoy it for what it is, Halloween fluff!

My Rating: A quick fun Halloween read.

9.) This is A Book For People Who Love the Royals by Rebecca Stoeker


I do love the Royals (well some of them) so I thought this would be a fun entertaining read. It was.

From Goodreads:

From the line of succession to the Queen's corgis, this charming book is a perfect primer on the fascinating world of British royalty. Full of fun facts and surprising stories to delight longtime enthusiasts and new fans alike, This Is a Book for People Who Love the Royalsdigs into all of the aspects of everyone's favorite monarchy. Uncover the history of British royalty and answers to common questions -- like how royal titles work, who is in the line of succession, and why the guards at Buckingham Palace never smile -- as well as deep dives into fashion, jewelry, and other palace perks. Profiles of popular family members, including Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, Princess Diana, Prince William and Kate Middleton, and more, add personality to this irresistible celebration of the crown.

The book itself is super cute. I loved the size, color, and illustrations. I already knew most of the facts and royal trivia but I still enjoyed reading it. It was a cheery and charming guide to the royal family. It was amusing to read all of the little details about the royal residences, jewels, wedding dresses, and family pets. The book is now a bit dated with both Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip having passed away and a new baby, Lilibet, joining Harry and Megan's family. 

My Rating: Good. A fun quirky book.

10.) Live Wire by Kelly Ripa


It's been a long time since I've watched Live with Kelly and Ryan on TV and an even longer time since I watched Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos on All My Children. I've always liked Kelly Ripa but I wasn't sure what to expect from this collection of autobiographical essays. I seem to either love or hate celebrity memoirs/essays. The reviews for this book seem to lean that way too. There has also been some negative press about what she had to say about Regis. I went in thinking that it would probably be.. meh... at best. I was wrong. I LOVED it! 

From Goodreads:

In Live Wire, her first book, Kelly shows what really makes her tick. As a professional, as a wife, as a daughter and as a mother, she brings a hard-earned wisdom and an eye for the absurdity of life to every minute of every day. It is her relatability in all of these roles that has earned her fans worldwide and millions of followers on social media. Whether recounting how she and Mark really met, the level of chauvinism she experienced on set, how Jersey Pride follows her wherever she goes, and many, many moments of utter mortification (whence she proves that you cannot, in fact, die of embarrassment) Kelly always tells it like it is. Ms. Ripa takes no prisoners. Surprising, at times savage, a little shameless and always with humor... Live Wire shows Kelly as she really is offscreen--a very wise woman who has something to say

This was a really fun read! I laughed so hard. I enjoyed her writing style and self-deprecating tone. This is totally my brand of humor. I got a kick out of this "not a memoir". I would recommend it on audiobook. Kelly narrates it and Mark hilariously chimes in. I liked reading about her marriage to Mark, her family, and especially the part about sending kids off to college and being an empty-nester. This was the perfect palate cleanser after reading some darker more serious books. If you are in need of a book slump buster this would be a great one.

As far as the section about Regis...I didn't want it to be a big Regis bash. It wasn't. She did a decent job presenting her experience of working with Regis. I disagree that she was disrespectful. I think she explained her viewpoint in a way that wasn't salacious like the media would have you believe. I think Regis wanted things done Regis' way and I don't believe that he saw her as his equal. Not surprising for a man of his generation.

As this isn't a memoir there were some glaring omissions, hot topics, and stories that she doesn't share. I had hoped that she would address some of those and give additional insight and context. Maybe someday she will. I think Ripa is a great storyteller and this was a fun peek into her life and family. If she writes more, I will definitely read it. Sometimes after reading a celebrity book I end up liking them less; I am happy to report that this was not the case with Kelly Ripa.

My Rating: This was a fun 5-star read for me.

11.) The Dream Daughter by Diane Chamberlain


From Goodreads:

When Caroline Sears receives the news that her unborn baby girl has a heart defect, she is devastated. It is 1970 and there seems to be little that can be done. But her brother-in-law, a physicist, tells her that perhaps there is. Hunter appeared in their lives just a few years before—and his appearance was as mysterious as his past. With no family, no friends, and a background shrouded in secrets, Hunter embraced the Sears family and never looked back. Now, Hunter is telling her that something can be done about her baby's heart. Something that will shatter every preconceived notion that Caroline has. Something that will require a kind of strength and courage that Caroline never knew existed. Something that will mean a mind-bending leap of faith on Caroline's part. And all for the love of her unborn child.

This was my book club's pick for November 2022. I had no prior knowledge of the book nor of Diane Chamberlain. It was the perfect way to go into it. Zero expectations. I just started reading. I love a good time travel novel and this one didn't disappoint. Once I started reading I couldn't stop. It was an incredibly propulsive and engrossing read. 

For me, the best parts of the novel were all of the interesting characters. The main characters were well-developed and compelling. My heart ached for them as I rooted for their happiness and success. I was invested in their lives throughout the novel. The heartbreaking decisions that Carly had to make kept me on the edge of my seat wondering what she was going to do and if it would be the right decision. Sometimes I agreed with her and sometimes I didn't.

Chamberlain did a good job of keeping all of the different timelines rich and interesting. I enjoyed the setting/time periods of both North Carolina and New York. I especially loved that in this time travel novel there are jumps forward and not just backward. That doesn't happen all that often. I loved looking at New York through Carly's astonished eyes. I also liked that I couldn't predict the ending. It could've gone several different ways and it kept me turning the pages and hoping for the best while dreading the worst.

The Dream Daughter was a pleasant surprise. It is a beautifully written layered novel about relationships, family, love, loss, and the power of a mother's love. It will pull on your heart strings. I loved this book and think that most people will. 

My Rating: Excellent. A thoughtful and captivating book.


October 2022 (and Halloween)

October got off to a rocky start. The college kids were utilizing their new found freedom and unfortunately not in the best ways. But let's start with the positives. The kids were meeting people, enjoying their classes, and having fun. Perhaps a little too much fun.

Ailey was having the time of her life and dating up a storm. Neither Ailey nor Kameron were staying put in Rexburg. In the first week and a half, Ailey had gone on a road trip to Provo with her roommates to attend a BYU football game and Kameron and his group of friends had gone on a road trip to Jackson Hole, WY.





Let's just say that this did not please dear old dad very much as both of these kids were supposed to be getting settled in Rexburg and finding JOBS! He was NOT happy.


Ailey in...to her...an act of great rebellion...got her ears double pierced. The joke was on her because A.) Tyler and I don't care about piercings and B.) A week later the church announced changes to the For the Strength of Youth some of which pertained to piercings. So...LOL. She also dyed her hair red. 

Ailey was also partying up a storm and acting rather irresponsibly. Not cool. She and Kameron were fighting constantly about the car and being the world's brattiest siblings. The entitlement was off the charts. So disappointing. You drop your kids off at college thinking that they are going to mature and then they actually act worse. Ailey was on a power high of "I'm 18. I'm an adult and I can make my own decisions." (I do NOT enjoy this stage of young adulthood!) Kameron was telling us what he was not going to tolerate about Ailey and the car. (Seriously?!) The constant fighting and power struggle between the two of them was ridiculous. Neither of them had jobs nor were they taking job hunting too seriously. Neither of them liked answering to mommy and daddy about their behavior and unfortunately they made the mistake of actually saying this to us. This behavior prompted a Come-to-Jesus facetime with me, Tyler, Ailey, and Kam. The likes of which has never been seen before in Johnson family history!! 

Between that FaceTime and conference weekend things began to improve significantly. Kameron got a job at Walmart. There is no better cure for entitlement than working at Walmart. Am I right?! He and Ailey hashed out a plan for sharing the car. Ailey started interviewing for jobs. They were getting along and taking steps to improve things in their relationship. Still...Tyler and I packed for an unwanted trip to Rexburg to kick some college butts.

As we drove the route back to Rexburg annoyed and disappointed...we marveled at the autumnal beauty on our way there. We've traveled this route at least a hundred times going back and forth to Utah but never in early fall. We've driven on horrible snowy roads in November but never when the leaves were changing. It was a picturesque and calming sight to see. We listened to as much General Conference as we could when we had service. Also calming. 

Kam called us when we were stopped for breakfast in Missoula, MT to tell us about the exciting changes to For the Strength of Youth. Hallelujah. Much needed. I've said that this was going to happen FOR YEARS. Kameron called to tell me that I was right! Free the shoulders I say! The big lists of dos and don'ts for dress and grooming are gone. No dos and don'ts about piercings and tattoos. Modesty is encouraged but now it is up to the person to prayerfully consider those topics and to be led by the Spirit. Youth are encouraged to counsel with their parents. The same with the dating age. 16 is a guideline. It's about darn time! 

We arrived in Rexburg around 3pm and checked into our hotel. We caught the last bit of conference and then had Kameron and Ailey come over. They walked in a little hesitantly. LOL. It was good to see them. We miss them terribly even when they act like little a-holes. We had our first big conversation. This one about the car and finances. Then Kameron had to go work his first shift at Walmart. 


We took Ailey out to dinner and had our initial conversation with her about her behavior and choices. A public place made these conversations easier. LOL. Both of our big convos with the kids went well. Tyler and I were happy about that. 

It was good to have some one-on-one time with Ailey. She told us all about her classes and friends. We went Broulims...the nice grocery store...and found several things to take home to Bryn that we don't have in Spokane. Several different flavors of Stephens Hot Chocolate. My favorite was the Malted Hot Chocolate. SO GOOD! We bought two different kinds of Uncle Bob's Butter Country Syrup: Pumpkin Spice and Coconut. We want to try every flavor now. And...the piece de la resistance... Country Time Lemonade in cans! This is a unicorn. It's only to be found at Harmons in Utah and apparently Broulims in Rexburg. Ailey told us that Broulims makes amazing pumpkin donuts and she was right. We bought a couple boxes and some other snacks to eat while watching conference the next day. 


We walked all over campus that night while Ailey showed us some cool things like the pretty botanical gardens, sculpture gardens, and water fountains. We came across a proposal in process. Of course we did!

After that we decided to go *spy* on Kameron at Walmart. We were walking around the giant store not sure where he would be located when he unexpectedly came out of an aisle and scared me. I literally shrieked. So much for subtle spying. We walked away but then *casually* walked past him multiple times to take some clandestine pictures. Our pictures are terrible but there is some real joy in seeing him in his little blue vest! LOL. Now that is adulting!



He was being trained in the crafts/fabrics section. He was cutting fabric like a boss! My mother would have been absolutely delighted about this fact although she would have never purchased fabric from Walmart. She was a fabric connoisseur and Walmart fabric was definitely not up to her standards. Then it was back to our hotel with Ailey for more discussion. Yay. When we took her back to her apartment late that night, I think we all felt better about things going forward.



The next morning Tyler picked up Ailey at 9:30 am. She wanted to come and watch conference with us at our hotel. Kameron came over half way through the first session. They live only about 5 minutes from our hotel. Staying in Rexburg was so much better than staying in Idaho Falls this time. 




We had our final big chat and made some mutually agreed upon decisions. We switched cars with the kids. Tyler was thrilled to get his car back. We left the Camry in Kameron's care. Ailey can use the car in limited circumstances and her car usage will be reevaluated at the end of the semester. Both kids will be assuming a much larger chunk of their own finances. I think everyone felt okay about most of the decisions that were made. After that we went out to eat before Tyler and I had to head home.

After lunch we followed them back to their apartment complex. For Ailey, living on her own and being away from family has been a big adjustment. Kameron's two year mission definitely prepared him for college. It was good to spend a little more time with her. We went back to her apartment and hung out for awhile. Finally we had to get going and told the kids goodbye. 


We listened to the afternoon session of conference as we drove home. President Nelson spoke three different times. His last talk was particularly moving. Both kids called us afterward to talk about it. 


The trip home went pretty quick. 8 hours is definitely better than the 12 hours it takes us to drive to Utah. We stopped in Kellogg for dinner at one of our favorite restaurants. We got back around 9:30pm that night and it was so good to be home with Bryn and Beverly!


While we were in Rexburg, Reilly and Hunter kept Bryn entertained. They took her to do fun things like try a new restaurant near Gonzaga called Indigenous Eats. Fry bread! Another new-to-Spokane delicacy that is very common in Utah. They loved the food and had fun! 

The rest of the month passed by in a blur of XC and Halloween. Bryn ran all month and finished out her XC season. She did FANTASTIC! We love watching her run!


Reilly and Hunter came with us to watch her run in the All-City Finals. Bryn had Johnsons cheering her on all over that course!







It is so crazy that we are done with middle school cross-country. Next up...high school. Gulp.

Tyler and I have had a lot of fun hanging out with Bryn. She is a good time and likes to do many of the same things that we like to do. So far the "cool kids club" as we call ourselves has had some fun adventures! There is slightly more pressure to keep her entertained than we have ever experienced with the other kids and sometimes it feels weird to go off and do our own thing and leave her alone. But she is good to tell us when she would like some "alone" time.



Bryn took us to the restaurant that she went to with Reilly and Hunter. That fry bread with huckleberries was pretty amazing!


Bryn had a day off of school and she wanted to have a mother/daughter day. Perfect! She wanted to go shopping, get cookies and drinks from Twisted Sugar, and go out to lunch. Okay...you don't need to twist my arm! Tyler joined us for lunch at our favorite gourmet grocery store/deli. 


After that I dropped Bryn off at the park to play volleyball with her friends. Volleyball season is right around the corner. Bryn has a big friend group and they keep her busy and active. I'm glad! It's been fun for Bryn to have the house to herself and to her friends. No more irritating siblings getting in their way. LOL. 

I decorated the house for Halloween. I asked Bryn if she was still into that and she said that she definitely was!! Good! Reilly came over and she and Bryn worked on their "Doll in the Fall." My friend Vanessa started doing this a few years ago. She would buy a creepy doll at a thrift store and then make it even creepier and hide it for someone to find. She would post a picture on Instagram and send people looking for it. Vanessa has since moved to Utah but Reilly and Bryn were eager to do something similar. Bryn and I found the perfect creepy pioneer looking doll at DI in Idaho Falls for $3. Imagine my horror when I was painting in the garage and heard music coming from the doll bin. It turned out that she was also a music box. Double creepy. Reilly was keen to try out her gory make-up skills on the old girl. She and Bryn had a blast working on her.





The next night they met up to hide her at the park. Reilly made a laminated card to go with her that said basically.. Happy Halloween! You've found our Doll in the Fall. Take a picture and tag us on Instagram.



They got the biggest kick out of it when people would tag them after finding *her.* It turned out to be so much fun! They want to do it again next year. Tyler and I checked on the doll while on a walk one night and she had ants coming out of her eyeballs. She was even more horrifying!! Eventually someone took her home with them! Yikes.

Brynnie also had something else momentous occur!

Before:



After:


She almost got away without needing braces. But in the last year a couple of her teeth started crowding and it was time for a consultation with the orthodontist. She ended up getting her braces on the same day as her consultation. The good news is that she won't have to wear them for too long. A year tops. She's a cute little metal mouth. :)

Mid-month Ailey was at a rodeo in Rexburg when she started having an allergy attack. She began wheezing and having a hard time breathing. She had to go to the medics at the rodeo. They gave her some oxygen and some albuterol. She started feeling better. Thank goodness. They were standing by with the epipen. We think she might have had an allergic reaction to the horses. She hasn't had anything like this happen before but then again we haven't been around horses very often. Our friend's daughter from Spokane was riding in the rodeo and her brother, who is Ailey's age, had Ailey come down and see the horses. She had been petting them. It was after she got back to her seat that she started having trouble breathing.

The next morning we called and scheduled her an appointment with an ENT allergy specialist. Kameron went with her so that he could be our eyes and ears. The doctor thinks that Ailey had an asthma attack. Although he said that if you have asthma, you also have allergies. He requested that she do a full allergy panel. He also prescribed her an inhaler and told her to carry it with her. Ailey also found out that she had a deviated septum. Who knew?! We were grateful to have Kam there and able to tell us exactly what the doctor said. It sucks being in another state when weird things like this happen.

Kameron came with her to her second appointment when they did all of her allergy testing. We found out that she is basically allergic to everything. She is very allergic to horses and hay. She is very allergic to peanuts. She is allergic to milk, eggs, wheat, cats, dogs, shellfish, and basically all trees, weeds, and grass. She reacted to practically everything. 


Kameron recorded what the doctor had to say so that we could hear everything. Again, so grateful for Kam. It is so bizarre though. She hasn't reacted like this to anything before. She would get seasonal allergies and we knew that she was allergic to grass but this kid has eaten a peanut butter sandwich everyday of elementary school without issue and we have a dog. Craziness. Now she is supposed to start keeping track of what she eats and how she reacts and avoiding nuts and horses and things like that. 


This year Bryn, after telling us that she didn't want to carve a pumpkin, later decided that she actually did. With the older kids we always did things like go to Greenbluff, pick pumpkins, get hot chocolate and pumpkin donuts. Now as the last kid at home, it was a pumpkin from Albertsons for Brynnie. LOL.


She carved pumpkins with her friends at her friend's house on their LIVING ROOM FLOOR I might add!! Holy moly...that mom is a kinder than me! They would've been out on the deck at our house. Bryn said that is exactly why they carved them at Liv's house! Ha ha! Yes, Liv's mother knew about this. She was the one texting me pictures!


What would it be like to be so laissez-faire about things like this? I will never know!

Now Reilly, on the other hand, kept up with all of our traditions. I guess she and Hunter should have taken Bryn!


Greenbluff and their famous pumpkin donuts!


 Guess what is still a thing? Road Shows. I thought they were gone for good. Nope.


Bryn was the lovely letter P. They were alphabet letters from the 1970s. LOL. She did a great job!





Tyler and I were in charge of making all of the popcorn at the road show. It was a little stressful!! (Understatement!) Mormons love their popcorn and they wanted ALOT OF IT. But it was fun to be involved and to watch the kids perform.


Volleyball started up a week after XC ended. It's fun and nerve wracking. This is Bryn's first year playing. She sprained her wrist last year and missed the whole season. I was excited for her to try a new sport. She put in a lot of effort over the summer with volleyball camp and playing regularly with her friends many of whom are on club teams. She had to try out and see if she made the varsity or junior varsity team. Just because you are an 8th grader doesn't mean you will be on the varsity team. The Varsity coach is also the girls volleyball coach at the high school and she is strict. Bryn made varsity. She was excited and very relieved!

One fateful night this month, Bryn hopped in the shower, and Tyler heard the sound of water trickling downstairs. Never a good sound. It turned out that there was water running down the wall next to the stairs going to our basement. Bryn was showering on the other side of that wall. Needless to say a nightmare ensued. I was...thankfully...at book club for most of this! Plumbers came the next day. It was not good news. They couldn't fix the problem. The plumber told us that the cost would either be around $500 if they could find a rare and elusive part that fits our old plumbing from the 1950s or it would be around $3,000 to redo it. Good grief. They came the day after that and thankfully managed to find the rare part in an old box in the corner of the warehouse. Hallelujah, it's a miracle! 

Later this month Ailey did another Utah road trip and so did Kameron. Does no one stay put at BYU-I? Ailey went to another football game and Kam went to a concert. 


Ailey also eventually found a job. Albeit a seasonal one. I guess it's better than nothing but still not ideal. She and Kameron both went to the temple this month. The Rexburg Temple makes it SO CONVENIENT for students to go and to go a lot. Bryn went to the temple with her youth group too.


Ailey and friends.


Kam and friends.

Toward the end of the month Ailey started feeling sick. She had a fever, sore throat, and cough. She went to the student health clinic to see what she had. She was hoping that it wasn't COVID. It wasn't. She turned out to have the awesome combo of mono and strep throat. Ailey was sicker than a dog for weeks. She went through two rounds of antibiotics and generally felt terrible from about the week before Halloween until way after Thanksgiving. Around Halloween Kameron got the flu or some kind of virus too but he was only sick for about a week. I felt so bad for Ailey it is hard being sick for the first time away from home. Kameron was good to keep her stocked up on everything that she needed until he got sick himself.  In the midst of all of this... Ailey kept having allergic reactions to really random foods that she has never had issues with before. Things like Franz donuts. We buy them all the time. Candy. Bread. It is so weird. I feel like her whole system has had one giant freak out this month.


The first anniversary of my father-in-law passing away came around. We made sure to check in with Tyler's mom. She was hanging in there and trying to stay busy. She has decided to stay in Moroni for the foreseeable future. She really doesn't want to sell her house or move. I love this picture! It is quintessential Judie and Joel. My father-in-law is in his prime. He looks healthy and happy. He will always look like this in my memory. Kameron and I found this picture at Judie's house when we were there this summer and we loved it! Joel was such a sweetheart. A very kind, gentle, and soft-spoken man. We miss him.

Tyler's step-brother Forrest got called to be a counselor in his bishopric in Florida. We were able to watch him be ordained to the office of a high priest over Zoom. It was really nice to be a part of all of that even from a distance.


Reilly had two more ultrasounds. The baby looks good. She was tested for gestational diabetes and it was negative. He's just a big boy! Her doctor doesn't want to officially move up her due date as of right now.


Tyler, Bryn, and I all got our flu shots. Tyler got his second eyeball shot. His doctor said that his eye looked so much better and that he may only need one more shot. That was great news! Tyler said that the 2nd shot was a little bit easier since he knew what to expect this time but still not a pleasant procedure. Bryn also had a dental appointment. No cavities. We had a lot of health stuff going on this this month...appointments and sickness. Bryn caught a cold too but it didn't last for too long. 


Tyler and I attended the Spokane is Reading author event. It was our 6th year attending. It finally returned after a 2 year absence due to COVID although to keep it easy they picked a local author. We read Difficult Fruit by Kate Lebo. The book was a two-star for me but it was still fun to listen to her speak about her book and writing life.

Kate Lebo

Tyler was busy all month with his high council duties. I was busy visiting various wards because it is Primary Program season. It was a little tricky trying to make sure that someone could get Bryn to church since Tyler and I were often in other wards but we did it! Kameron got a calling in his ward. He is a Sunday School Teacher. That is my nightmare calling but he will do a good job!

Before it was even Halloween we were finalizing our Thanksgiving plans. Kam and Ailey are going to spend Thanksgiving in SLC with Kirk and Meki. The roads are notoriously horrible to drive up here in November and it didn't make sense to fly them home when we would be doing that just three weeks after Thanksgiving. They are excited to spend time at Kirk's. If they can't be home with us that is the next best place for them to spend the holiday. We get Hunter and Reilly this year so we won't be traveling out of town but we still wanted to do something fun. I appreciate that our Thanksgivings look different every year so there isn't any nostalgic pressure to do the same thing. I am so glad that we started mixing things up for Thanksgiving even when my mom was still alive. We booked a beautiful Airbnb on Rockford Bay on Lake Coeur d' Alene for Thanksgiving. We are super excited!

The rest of the month was filled with prepping the yard for winter, eating pumpkin flavored things, going on walks and for drives to look at the leaves. We had to drive to North Idaho to see fall leaves because the ones around us stayed green even past Halloween. 


North Idaho



Spokane right before Halloween. 
So many green leafy trees. It was bizarre.

As Halloween approached the festivities began to kick off. We participated in a TikTok challenge with our children. As those videos rolled in it absolutely made my Halloween! As did Tyler in this get-up:

and Bryn in this one:


and Beverly in this: 


Finally Halloween rolled around. One of Tyler's good friends and co-workers is retiring this year and she is super into Halloween. Their department is notoriously not into dressing up nor doing anything fun on Halloween so Sandy decorates their floor and comes dressed up every year to try to get this department to have a little fun. This year they all dressed up on Halloween as runners to surprise her! (She is marathon runner.) They had a great time and Sandy was delighted!!


Tyler in his costume.


Since Sandy wasn't in on the surprise she came dressed as Alice Cooper! Ha Ha!

This was the first year that we weren't involved in any way with Bryn's trick-or-treating. She just wanted to be with her friends. It is weird when you get down to the last kid and the last kid is a teenager. Thank goodness we will have a little grandbaby next Halloween. I managed to get a few pictures before she left. She and her friends dressed up as 80s Rappers. They trick-or-treated and one of their friends had a Halloween party the weekend before that they went to as well. They always like to do a group costume. This year it came down to 80s rappers or The Chipmunks. Quite the dichotomy!





My Halloween costume.


Ailey and Miley in their Halloween costumes as sister missionaries. Lol. Ailey dressed up a couple of times as various things for various parties. This was my favorite.

Tyler and I actually had quite an enjoyable Halloween night. We handed out candy to the kids in our neighborhood, had Thai food delivered, and watched House of the Dragon. Not bad. Not bad at all.


This month felt like it lasted 100 years. It was exhausting mentally and physically. All of the stuff going on with Ailey (and Kam to a lesser extent) was stressful and took a toll. Some nights I climbed into bed at 7pm and ate chex mix for dinner. Sometimes those toddler years look really good. The young adult ones can pack quite a punch. As my favorite realtor Janna used to say...ONWARD!