Tuesday, June 12, 2018

May

Next to December, I feel like this is the busiest month of the year. School, sports, extracurriculars are crazy busy. There are so many concerts, recitals, performances, field trips, assemblies, team parties, and activities.

First up was our 23rd anniversary! This year was extra special and we were so happy to celebrate. The day started off with me at a baptism for one of my primary kids and Tyler was at one of Bryn's track meets. After we were done we met up and headed downtown for a day of fun. Our first stop was for lunch at the Davenport Tower. So good!


Then we spent the day shopping and bumming around downtown. It was so fun! We had a great day all to ourselves. We ended the night trying out the restaurant Blackbird. This restaurant just changed up their menu. The owner's concept is to revamp the menu every three years. Now it is a hipster BBQ joint. Listen, I am from Kansas City AND Texas and I KNOW my BBQ!! I was hopeful...but my expectations were low. BUT...I am always craving BBQ. So we decided to try it out.


Tyler dreaming about his BBQ... 

We had a long wait because the place was packed!! Tyler served his mission in North Carolina and loves his BBQ too. Blackbird was advertising that they do all kinds of BBQ and have all of the different sauces...KC, Texas, Carolina, Alabama White. In case you don't know...there are MANY different kinds of BBQ (they are all done differently) and they each have their own style of sauce and they are all VERY different. I like them all but Kansas City style BBQ and sauce is HANDS DOWN the absolute best!! There is no competition. Tyler was all about the Carolina BBQ until he took a trip to KC and changed his tune. Now, we are in 100% agreement. I dream of Gates BBQ in Kansas City and Oklahoma Joe's. When I was in high school Wyndotte BBQ was right down the street from my school and we had open lunch so we went there all the time. It is a total dive but I have such great memories. But my all time favorite is Gates. Their  BBQ sauce is to die for!!!!! TO DIE FOR!! Oklahoma Joe's maybe has the better meat but Gates has the best sauce and I'm all about the sauce and the brisket and burnt the ends...with some ribs on the side. Now I am so hungry!!

Just for the record here is my BBQ of choice:

1.) KC
2.) Texas
3.) Carolina
4.) Alabama

Tyler's list looks like this:

1.) KC
2.) Carolina
3.) Alabama
4.) Texas

So we had high expectations for ol' Blackbird... and things started off fantastic. We ordered the pimento cheese with homemade potato chips. YUM.


Pimento Cheese is something that Tyler got me hooked on. It is HUGE down south (not so much in Texas) and was a staple on his mission in NC. Everyone had their own recipe and everyone served it at everything. It is delicious. Tyler is always trying to find one that tastes as good as his favorite one from his mission. It was an old family recipe made by a little old lady named Peepee. (Got to love the South!) Apparently Peepee was the queen of the pimento cheese and Ty has yet to taste its equal although he keeps trying. This one was pretty tasty though!


Then our food arrived and we had all the sauces. 


We are tough critics. It's probably okay BBQ for Spokane...but we were disappointed. The brisket was pretty bland...the KC BBQ sauce was not up to KC standards. The Texas one was pretty legit. We both liked the Alabama White sauce. Carolina BBQ is all about the vinegar and that didn't happen. The pecan smoked pork was by far the best meat. It was really good. So while the food didn't live up to our dreams it was still BBQ and we still chowed it down. We ordered buttermilk pie for dessert. We really need to move down South. I love the food so much!!

While waiting for our dessert to arrive I started to feel sick...VERY SICK...like EXTREMELY sick. Let me preface this by saying that our kids had all been sick the week before...particularly Kameron...throw up sick. They were all over it and we felt great so we thought we had dodged a bullet. Well, while waiting for my dessert the overwhelming need to vomit arose. I very rarely throw up...usually only when pregnant. But while I sat there waiting for my pie I broke into a cold sweat and was so nauseous that I could barely make it to the restroom. My one goal was to not puke in a restaurant full of hipsters!! I made it to the bathroom and was so sick. Sick enough that people were knocking on my stall asking if I was okay and did I need them to go get someone. Sweet of them... but I was like "Just leave me the @#$% alone and let me puke in peace!!" I managed to text Tyler from the bathroom telling him to get the check asap and we sped for home with my head hanging out of the window. Good times. I spent the rest of the night throwing up. Nothing says sexy romantic anniversary like a puking wife. Tyler wisely kept his distance and yeah... Happy Anniversary to us! He never did get the stomach bug. Lucky!


Then it was Mother's Day and I already told you about mine. My sister Kelley and I met Mom the week after Mother's Day to celebrate her. We had a girls day...lunch and a movie. It was a lot of fun. We ate at Twigs and then went to see the movie The Book Club.




We were laughing so hard about the two daughters who try to "take care" of their mother, Diane Keaton. Kelley had literally said some of  the exact same words as one of the daughters in the movie (the escalator scene) only a few minutes before!! Too funny. Extra funny was our sad selfie attempts ("My hands are too weak!") and my mom trying to get out of her reclining seat. I thought the three of us were going to die laughing. Anyway, it was a fun and amusing afternoon.


I also had the pleasure of going to Bryn's Activity Days Mother/Daughter Activity. They did a spa day for their mothers and we got pampered. We got sugar scrub that they made and hand massages and neck massages. We also got our hair brushed and a bunch of other things. We answered cute questionnaires and ate delicious food and drank Italian Sodas. It was a fun time with these super cute girls!


Bryn had her school spring concert and sang a little solo. She did such a great job! And none of her classmates threw up on the risers this year! #winning It was a fun night at the elementary school. She is growing up too fast.




Her little solo.


Berkley and Bryn



Then we were off to celebrate her wonderful concert and performance at Baskin Robbins!



Then it was the Jr. Lilac Parade. Ailey's drill team was marching in it with her middle school. The parade's theme this year was western and Ailey was not a fan. She would've rather been in their uniforms with their pompoms. I don't know why the parade picks a lame theme every year. At least it is better than the year that Kameron had to be a minion. Ha Ha! He was not amused.




Waiting for Ailey to go marching by!!


This is a good parade. They throw lots of candy and we were ready!! Bryn had her jacket pockets full by the end of the parade.



Then we had to sprint from the parade to the high school where the dance team was doing a fundraiser and showcase. We got there just in time for Ailey to perform. It was her first time performing with her new team and she was a little nervous but she did great!!



Here's a snippet from her performance.


Then it was the royal wedding of Prince Harry to Meghan Markle!! Did I stay up all night to watch it? Of course I did!! And so did Ailey and Bryn. We loved it...and we ate macrons!! It doesn't get much better than that!



We had the greatest time!! When I was a kid I was allowed to stay up all night and watch the wedding of Princess Diana and Prince Charles. I also watched when Fergie married Prince Andrew and when Prince Edward married Sophie. I stayed up to watch the funeral of Princess Diana and then the wedding of Prince William to Kate. It is a fun tradition and one that I love sharing with my daughters.


Prince Harry is our favorite! Once you go red... ha ha!!

Bryn finished up a fantastic first season of track. She did such a great job! She is so fast and it was so fun watching her push herself and fly around the track.

Don't mess with her!!


Celebrating the end of her season at her team party at Bluberry!


Then all of the lilacs bloomed and Spokane aka the Lilac City smelled like sheer heaven!!




Speaking of lilacs...Kameron and our nephew Dane were in the Lilac Parade with their marching bands. No pictures though...too bad. Next year Kam, Dane, and Ailey will all be in it. Should be a par-tay!

Kameron had many...and I mean MANY...MANY...MANY...band and jazz band performances. Despite what he claims...we went to all of them!!!!!!!!


Waiting for Kameron to perform.


There were so many performances, meets, concerts...you name it...we were at it. That by the end of the month we were all absolutely exhausted and we still had a few more weeks of activities to go. I could do a whole chat book of random places where I found Bryn asleep!!

We had a great Memorial Day weekend out at the lake. My brother, Kirk, and his family were in town. We met up with Stacey and Kelley and their families and spent a long weekend out there. The weather was beautiful!!






Tyler and Kirk kayaking.




There was paddleboarding too!


Lots of cousin time.


Some relaxation time...not nearly enough.


And...Kirin cuddle time!!

When we left on Memorial Day we headed to Coeur d' Alene for lunch at our favorite Greek place and stopped and placed flowers on the graves of my grandparents and great-grandparents.


It also happened to be my Grandma's birthday. She would've been 95 years old. It was also the one year anniversary of her death. We were lucky to have her for as long as we did. What a matriarch! What a force of nature! She was truly an incredible woman who held her family together with an iron will. It made me so happy to see that other family members had been out to the cemetery too. A lot has happened in our extended family in a year...none of it good...but I am hopeful that things will improve as time goes on. I love my family and rifts are so difficult.

In other news, several of our good friends children got married this month. Kids that Reilly grew up with...man that makes me feel old. Our friends Chris and Valynn's daughter got married and I admit some tears were shed at that reception. Kaitlyn looked beautiful!! Also cute Jacob son of our friends Erica and Tyler got married...Reilly's childhood crush and formerly one of the rowdiest kids in primary!! He has grown to be such a sweet and kind young man. We are so glad that they have both found special people to share their lives with.

It's hard to remember all of the things that we had going on in May. It was such a blur. I also had a fun brunch with friends, Kameron spoke in church on the topic of the youth's role in ministering, there were a lot of Primary visits to kids getting baptized and a baptism. We debated the whole Yanny/Laurel situation. Tyler, Bryn, Kam, and I heard Yanny. Technically I heard what sounded like the devil saying "jelly" so what does that say about me? Reilly and Ailey both heard a clear and distinct Laurel. Interesting. The rest of the month was prepping for Farm Chicks which is HUGE! So much time and effort goes into that and it pretty much consumed my life in May.

Thursday, June 07, 2018

Mother's Day 2018

Mother's Day 2018



I love Mother's Day! I look forward to it all year long. Motherhood is often hard, thankless, and a lot of the time discouraging and frustrating. I hope that I am doing it well and that my children feel loved, supported, strengthened, and encouraged. But no one is throwing me a ticker tape parade. I also fail a lot of the time. So I especially appreciate a day set aside out of the year for my children (and Tyler) to show appreciation for all that I do. I don't know about you but my children aren't always over flowing with expressions of appreciation for me on a daily basis. They are good kids and they are appreciative BUT they hide it pretty well especially when I am reminding them to clean their rooms, do their homework, take a shower, not fight with each other, stop yelling, be respectful, brush their teeth, be kind, work hard, etc. I am sure that along with the eye rolls, muttering, annoyance, stomping, and screeching they are full of appreciation and gratitude for their dear sweet mother! Ha ha!

Most Mother's Days are pretty great! Tyler is always leading the way with thoughtful words, gifts, gestures, and acts of service. On Mother's Day the kids are extra loving and sweet. It's the best! Well... not every year is going to knock it out of the park. Some years are going to be a bust. This year was somewhat that way. It started out pretty rough...luckily it ended well. :)

This Mother's Day morn, instead of waking up to my joyful children and spouse wishing me a Happy Mother's Day with flowers, food, and cards. I woke up to nothing. I got up and started getting ready for church and imagined that when I emerged from the bathroom I would be greeted by hugs, kisses, food, and Mother's Day wishes. Again, nothing. They were all still snoozing away.

Now I was irritated. We have early church, no one was up, and no one was doing anything. The sounds of me slamming doors, cupboards, and stomping around soon roused them. But did they say anything? No. They were all tired and annoyed at having to get up early for church. By then I was slamming the box of donuts (part of my alleged Mother's Day breakfast on the table) and yelling. "Thanks a lot jerks!" Then Tyler hijacked the bathroom because HE had to get ready for church and I ended up being the last one ready and late for church. Not a delightful morning. While I listened to the talks about Mothers/Women (which were actually very good) I seethed. Adding to my anger was the fact that Reilly was supposed to come to church with us that morning. I love it when all of my family can attend together but she was a no show.

My anger simmered a bit as my family all headed to their various classes and callings and I didn't have to see them. After church my anger and disappointment returned. My family said that they were sorry for sleeping in and promised to make it up to me and to do all of the things that I wanted to do. (We had a special day planned.) I told them to forget it! Mother's Day was cancelled!! And...plan on me doing NOTHING for Father's Day and all of their birthdays and every other single thing I do around here! I slammed our bedroom door and I locked myself in the bedroom. Emotional breakdown ensued while my family hovered awkwardly outside the bedroom door. Tyler eventually lured me out and as we all sat in the living room where I ranted about how no one appreciates me and all that I sacrifice for them and that I am tired of being treated like crap (teenagers) and that not one of them could even wish me a Happy Mother's Day after ALL I DO FOR ALL OF THEM!! (You get the idea.)  During this hysteria Reilly arrived. After this impromptu family meeting where I unleashed all my feelings and emotions to my family who were indeed sorry and who did feel badly. I was still hurt and mad. Try as I might I couldn't reign it in... it took my 17 year old son to calmly walk over to me, put his arms around me, and say, "Mom, we love you" and my anger melted. Of course then I was sobbing about how much I loved all of them and how lucky I was to be their mother and...yeah... BUT... I was feeling understood, loved, and appreciated. Hello emotional wreck. We all have them once in awhile and that was my day. Guess what, being a mom is hard and thankless and sometimes you just want someone to notice what you do and to say thank you!

After all of that insanity, there were hugs, kisses, Mother's Day wishes, sweet cards, thoughtful gifts, and acts of service. We ate my donuts and I opened my gifts and we got ready to have a fun day together.

For Mother's Day I had two requests: I wanted to go on a bike ride and I didn't want to cook a meal. The weather was GORGEOUS on Mother's Day!! Sunny and 87 degrees!! Perfect for a family bike ride. So we loaded up our bikes and headed to one of our favorite trails.


I love these crazy kids mine and am so glad that they also love me!!


Tyler was there too! He was our photographer!

We love this biking trail because it goes past a lake, two creeks, beautiful fields, and there is a lot of wild life! We never fail to see something interesting. This bike ride we caught frogs and turtles. So fun!! It was also great to dust off our bikes, tune them up, and go on our first ride of the year. I love to go biking and this was the perfect Mother's Day activity for me.



After our approximately 12 mile bike ride we came home and I was sent outside to lie in the hammock and read a book while Mother's Day dinner preparations were underway. No problem!!


It was wonderful!!

When I was called into the house it was decorated with streamers and had cute plates, cups, and napkins. They did a great job! But they TRULY out did themselves with the most amazing dinner. One of my very favorites...if not my very favorite...meal. Street Tacos and Brazilian Limeade. It was amazing!!



Even better was the great company, good conversation, and lots of laughs. I love having older kids. We have such great dinner conversations. I don't miss the days of dinner struggles with toddlers and preschoolers. It was so fun to linger over dinner and to enjoy one another. So even though Mother's Day started out ROUGH it ended on a high note! I truly am blessed to be a mother and to be a mother to my amazing children! They are such fantastic individuals who are doing great things!! I love them very much and their father too!

Tuesday, June 05, 2018

Spring Book Reviews

Spring Book Reviews

1.) This Must Be The Place by Maggie O'Farrell



I am a fan of Anne Bogel of The Modern Mrs. Darcy blog and her podcast What Should I Read Next? I have gotten some great book recommendations from her and this book came highly rated and raved about. I was excited to read it as I enjoyed Maggie O' Farrell's book The Vanishing Act of Esme Lennox. Unfortunately, this book left me feeling quite disappointed. Ann Bogel rated this novel as one of her favorite books of 2017 and loved it so much that she selected it for her MMD book club. I have no idea why.

From Goodreads:

Meet Daniel Sullivan, a man with a complicated life. A New Yorker living in the wilds of Ireland, he has children he never sees in California, a father he loathes in Brooklyn, and a wife, Claudette, who is a reclusive ex–film star given to pulling a gun on anyone who ventures up their driveway. Claudette was once the most glamorous and infamous woman in cinema before she staged her own disappearance and retreated to blissful seclusion in an Irish farmhouse.  But the life Daniel and Claudette have so carefully constructed is about to be disrupted by an unexpected discovery about a woman Daniel lost touch with twenty years ago. This revelation will send him off-course, far away from wife, children, and home. Will his love for Claudette be enough to bring him back?

This story is told from the view points of various narrators. Each chapter jumps to different characters and time lines. The novel's timeline twists and turns back on itself. Then it jumps forward and back again. I enjoy this type of story telling and the prose was subtle and wonderful. Those were the highlights.

This is the story of a marriage between two flawed individuals...Daniel and Claudette. The novel follows the highs and lows of their complex marriage which is always... even in their good times...mildly depressing...as are the consequences of their actions. Daniel and Claudette are often so unlikable...especially Claudette who was an absolute bore. I kept waiting for things to get interesting with her and they never did. Daniel was a bit more fleshed out and slightly more interesting.

Now for the low lights. There were so many loose ends in the plot. What was the point of Rosalind? Johnny DeMarco? Even with the characters of Timou and and Nicola you were just left hanging. Why? There were so many interesting directions that the plot could have gone. So many interesting twists and turns that it could have taken and didn't. Instead the book was long and heavy and the plot just dragged. The other book that I read by Maggie O'Farrell ended with a twist and a crazy ending that left me saying...What?! This book just left me saying...What was the point? No real questions were resolved. No great revelations. Just an "Oh, is that it?" ending. It's too bad.

My Rating: Disappointing.

2.) Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley



Emily Ley has a planner and stationary company. She also has a gorgeous Instagram feed and is a Christian writer. The book itself is beautiful but its content is nothing new or in any way original. It is full of the same ideas that are being touted by multiple writers these days: simplifying, decluttering, organizing, meal planning, getting rid of mommy guilt, and having gratitude.

Emily is a young mom with three children under the age of five. I had to laugh when she said that she had struggled for "years" with mommy guilt. At the time of the writing of the book her oldest child was three. She seems to be a kind, thoughtful, and obviously talented person but she has limited life experience in many of the areas that she is advising others about. This book would be good for a super young mom or a young adult just heading out into the world. It's full of common sense but has a rather limited scope. That said, a non LDS book that quotes President Harold B. Lee isn't all bad!! I loved reading that.

From Goodreads:

As a busy wife, new mother, business owner, and designer, Emily Ley came to a point when she suddenly realized she couldn’t do it all. She needed to simplify her life, organize her days, and prioritize the priorities. She decided to hold herself to a standard of grace rather than perfection.

My Rating: So-So.

3.) Capital Gaines by Chip Gaines



I am a fan of Fixer Upper and of Chip and Joanna Gaines. I enjoyed their book The Magnolia Story therefore I was looking forward to reading this book by Chip. I don't know exactly what I was expecting...maybe more of his side of their story...which it kind of was for the first few chapters and then it became more of a motivational book with Chip giving advice about life and business. It is kind of a weird amalgamation of Chip-isms and his views on life and being an entrepreneur. If you are a fan of Fixer Upper and/or an entrepreneur you will probably really enjoy it. If you aren't...you probably won't. It is pretty heavy on the business and entrepreneurial side.

From Goodreads:

The funny and talented Chip Gaines is well known to millions of people as a TV star, renovation expert, bestselling author, husband to Joanna, and father of 4 in Waco, Texas. But long before the world took notice, Chip was a serial entrepreneur who was always ready for the next challenge, even if it didn’t quite work out as planned. Whether it was buying a neighborhood laundromat or talking a bank into a loan for some equipment to start a lawn-mowing service, Chip always knew that the most important thing was to take that first step. In Capital Gaines, we walk alongside him as he relives some of his craziest antics and the lessons learned along the way. His mentors taught him to never give up and his family showed him what it meant to always have a positive attitude despite your circumstances. Throw in a natural daredevil personality and a willingness to do (or eat!) just about anything, and you have the life and daily activity of Chip Gaines.

I enjoyed much of the book. Chip is hilarious and I often found myself laughing out loud which is always good. Even though I am a small business owner myself; some of the business parts of the book made it drag. I wanted more about Chip and Joanna and their relationship.

Chip jumps around on various topics...such as faith, hard work, following your dreams, and taking risks. The first part of the book read more like a memoir and the second half read more like a self-help book. He has an interesting outlook on life and a *unique* approach to decision making. There were some good bits of advice and Chip is a great cheerleader...if sometimes an over-the-top one.

I liked this quote:

We were created to live passionately--all of us, no matter our personality type or circumstance. The human heart was made to swell and jump and stir; that's a fact. It took me a while to figure out what makes my heart feel that way. But that is perhaps one of the most crucial things to know about ourselves.

And this one...about social media:

Some people show enormous resistance to modifying even a fraction of themselves. They're not about to shift the way they think or what they think they know. They simply expect others to get with the program--to adjust their mindset and fall into their way of thinking. How ignorant for any one of us to assume that we have a monopoly on right perspective and no one else holds even a piece of the puzzle. and how arrogant to just demand that people change for us without ever making the effort to know them as human beings or understand where they're coming from.

I wonder if being angrily shouted at or arrogantly debated with has ever swayed a single person? Are human hearts moved by being ridiculed and mocked? When people fling accusations with the presumption of knowing another person's intentions, what possible outcome could they be hoping for? Who would ever move to their enemy's camp under such circumstances.

This book was a quick read. I think it would've been great to listen to it as an audio book. Chip narrates it and I am sure that would've added some extra enjoyment.

My Rating: Good...especially if you are a fan of Fixer Upper and Chip and Joanna Gaines.

4.) Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Christie


This was our book club pick for March. I am not a mystery fan. I very rarely read the genre but Agatha Christie is such a legend that I was excited to read this book. I read the book And Then There Were None when I was in high school but that was it as far as Agatha Christie books go. I also haven't seen the latest movie remake either. I was excited to get reading and to see what all of the hubbub was about.

From Goodreads:

What more can a mystery addict desire than a much-loathed murder victim found aboard the luxurious Orient Express with multiple stab wounds, thirteen likely suspects, an incomparably brilliant detective in Hercule Poirot, and the most ingenious crime ever conceived?

This was a quick read. It was mildly entertaining but certainly not thrilling or terribly exciting. The ending had me annoyed and I felt like it was a cop out. Despite that I enjoyed the luxurious setting on board the Orient Express and all of the exotic locations that were mentioned. The cast of characters was interesting. I thought that it would be fun to try and piece together all of the evidence and guess who the murderer was myself. But with the final reveal you find out that only Inspector Poirot had all of the information due to his fantastical deduction and leaps of logic. The reader never stands a chance at solving the mystery. Poirot's guesses seemed a bit far-fetched and reaching to me and required a suspension of belief. Also, the plot and pacing is very methodical like Poirot himself.

People love this book. It was written over 84 years ago by one of the most prolific mystery writers of all time. It is definitely a classic and I can see why it was a best-seller...particularly in its time. I was just hoping for a little more drama and suspense.


My Rating: Okay. A classic murder mystery.


5.) If You Only Knew by Jamie Ivey


I love Jamie Ivey's podcast The Happy Hour. She interviews amazing women who are doing wonderful things! I love following her on social media too. She is so uplifting and fun. I was super excited to read her first book.

From Goodreads:

What if you knew all the moments of my past that I am not proud of? What if you really knew me, the messy parts that I’ve hoped to forget and worked hard to conceal? For so long, my greatest fear was what you might think of me if you only knew the whole story.  It’s exhausting, this guarding of our stories and struggles. Fear of being found out had caused me to hide—but I wasn’t just covering my flaws, I was unintentionally blocking the beauty of God’s grace. My journey to real freedom began when I quit running from my mess and started trusting Jesus to make something beautiful of it. 

This is most definitely a book about Christianity by a Christian writer. It was 90% preaching and 10% the author's personal experiences. It was heavy on the preaching/sermon side. I am a church goer and I found myself thinking...wow...this is a lot. I wanted more of her own story. When she tells her life story and then ties it into the gospel it's wonderful. I just wish there was more of that. Her podcast isn't this way...it is definitely a Christian podcast...but she speaks with so many amazing women that it doesn't seem heavy handed at all...but this book did.

Don't get me wrong. I love Jamie Ivey. She is an incredible human being and her bravery and vulnerability are amazing. I appreciate her message of love, forgiveness, and redemption. It is a message so needed in the world today. I will also read anything that she writes because I love her. I just wish there was more of her personality in this book.

I loved that she encourages women to be vulnerable and to share our stories even the really hard ones and to not live in shame. All of our experiences help us to grow and by sharing our experiences we help others to learn and grow as well. I truly believe that connection comes from vulnerability. We do no one any favors...least of all ourselves... by pretending to be perfect. I also really appreciated her thoughts that the Christian community needs to get over "Sin-Shock". I 100% agree. This is huge and it is a stumbling block for many trying to find their way back to God. We are all sinners. We all stand in need of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. We cannot act shocked and horrified when people share with us what they are going through...this is the antithesis of Christ like love. Nowhere in the scriptures is Jesus "shocked and horrified" by sin. Not once. I see both of these concepts as real issues in my faith. People have a hard time returning to church when they feel like they are shameful and unworthy to attend church with *perfect* people who are shocked and horrified by the things they have done. This is something I REALLY want the world and my children to understand. Church is where we go to be healed...not to be judged by impossible standards.

I once was in a church class that discussed this... our teacher handed out white stickers...and we had to write all of the things that we are on them and stick them on our bodies: mother, teacher, daughter, wife, child of God etc. Then she talked about what if we had stickers that we wore representing our sins...liar, gossip, jealous, addict, mean, judging, lazy, back-stabber, frenemy, cheater, hypocrite, untrustworthy, unlawful, greedy etc. She talked about how we would all be covered with stickers because we are ALL sinners...we all fall short and need the Atonement of Jesus Christ. We would be surprised by the number of stickers we wore if all of our sins were made visible as well as those of everyone around us. But also how much more understanding we would be of others when we read their stickers that were the same as ours and how powerful the words "me too" would be. We would be so much more compassionate, empathetic, encouraging, supportive, and loving. We do ourselves no favors by pretending...and it is pretending...to be perfect. That message really resonates with me. 

Jamie Ivey's message is a powerful one and a courageous one. I look forward to reading more from her. I just want more of her endearing personality to shine through next time.

My Rating: Good...but lots of sermonizing. Although the message is beautiful, empowering, and needed. Listen to her podcast. It is amazing!

6.) The Lady of the Rivers by Philippa Gregory


First, ignore the cheesy book cover...all of the editions have terrible covers! But when I am in need of a good enjoyable escape book I ALWAYS turn to historical fiction and despite the cheesy covers Philippa Gregory always delivers. This book was just what I needed. Plotting royals, forbidden love, a touch of magic. It was a fun and entertaining read. This novel is the start of her Plantagenet and Tudor series.

From Goodreads:

Jacquetta, daughter of the Count of Luxembourg and kinswoman to half the royalty of Europe, was married to the great Englishman John, Duke of Bedford, uncle to Henry VI. Widowed at the age of 19, she took the extraordinary risk of marrying a gentleman of her household for love, and then carved out a new life for herself.

Sometimes you just want to curl up on a rainy day with a blanket and a good book. This book was great for that. All of her books are!! I liked the protagonist Jacquetta of Luxembourg and I particularly liked that this novel focused on the strong women behind the scenes more than the men that history has made famous. The author does a great job of bringing the stories of these women to light. It was an entertaining historical read.

My Rating: Enjoyable! I immediately downloaded the next book in the series too.

7.) The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern



This was our book club pick for April. I am not a big fantasy reader so I approached this book with a bit of trepidation. It has come highly recommended over the years so I decided to trust in that and jumped in. I LOVED IT!! 

From Goodreads:

The circus arrives without warning. No announcements precede it. It is simply there, when yesterday it was not. Within the black-and-white striped canvas tents is an utterly unique experience full of breathtaking amazements. It is called Le Cirque des Rêves, and it is only open at night. 

But behind the scenes, a fierce competition is underway—a duel between two young magicians, Celia and Marco, who have been trained since childhood expressly for this purpose by their mercurial instructors. Unbeknownst to them, this is a game in which only one can be left standing, and the circus is but the stage for a remarkable battle of imagination and will. Despite themselves, however, Celia and Marco tumble headfirst into love—a deep, magical love that makes the lights flicker and the room grow warm whenever they so much as brush hands.  True love or not, the game must play out, and the fates of everyone involved, from the cast of extraordinary circus performers to the patrons, hang in the balance, suspended as precariously as the daring acrobats overhead. 

What can I say? This book was an experience. A feast for the senses. The setting was atmospheric, lush, vivid, and magical. The world building was utterly fantastic! The writing was smart and multi-layered. The prose was elegant. It was a pure reading pleasure. I have read so many poorly written books lately. This was a welcome breath of fresh air. The imagery and detailed descriptions only enhanced the reading experience. I enjoyed the nonlinear story telling and overlapping timelines although it did require a lot of flipping back to the start of the chapter to recheck the dates quite a few times. The story is also told from the points of view of quite a few interesting and intriguing characters. This was also very enjoyable.

I loved the story too. An ancient dual between two schools of magical knowledge: old and new. The two magicians fighting by proxy through their talented students. I thought that the plot was rich and complex and full of interesting themes and symbolism. I loved the steampunk vibe of magic in the Victorian Era. It had a super cool retro-futuristic feeling.

There were so many awesome quotes too... that really makes a book for me as well. Here are a few:

"Magic", the man in the grey suit repeats, turning the word into a laugh. "This is not magic. This is the way the world is, only very few people take the time to stop and note it. Not a one of them even has an inkling of the things that are possible in this world, and what's worse is that none of them would listen if you attempted to enlighten them."

"Life takes us to unexpected places sometimes. The future is never set in stone, remember that."

"Good and Evil are a great deal more complex than a princess and a dragon, or a wolf and a scarlet-clad little girl. And is not the dragon the hero of his own story? Is not the wolf simply acting as a wolf would act?"

"Most maidens are perfectly capable of rescuing themselves in my experience, at least the ones worth something."

"People see what they wish to see. And in most cases, what they are told that they see."

"I have seen a great many things that I might once have considered impossible, or unbelievable. I find I no longer have clearly defined parameters for such matters."

"You are not destined or chosen, I wish I could tell you that you were if that would make it easier, but it's not true. You were in the right place at the right time, and you care enough to do what needs to be done. Sometimes that's enough."

"[Stories] are important. Someone needs to tell those tales. When the battles are fought and won and lost...there is magic in that. It's in the listener, and for each and every ear it will be different, and it will affect them in ways they could never predict. From the mundane to the profound. You may tell a tale that takes up residence in someones soul, becomes their blood and self and purpose. That tale will move them and drive them and who knows what they might do because of it, because of your words."

"And there are never really endings, happy or otherwise. Things keep going on, they overlap and blur, your story is part of your sister's story is part of many other stories, and there is no telling where any  of them may lead."

"Time is a peculiar thing. You'll learn that eventually."

See! Some absolute gems! And there were so many more great quotes in the book too. That really added to my reading enjoyment.

This book was an unexpected pleasure. It will stay with me for a long time. It also had such memorable opening lines too. Ones that I won't soon forget. I loved this book and would highly recommend it. Our book club all really liked it too!! Also, the audiobook is wonderful! I went back and forth between the audiobook and the paperback book. It is narrated by Jim Dale who narrated all of the Harry Potter audiobooks and I loved the audio version too!!

My Rating: Fantastic!

8.) The White Queen by Philippa Gregory



This is the next installment in Philippa Gregory's Tudor and Plantagenet series. I enjoyed the first book in the series The Lady of the Rivers and I quickly moved onto the next book. This is the story of Jacquetta's daughter, Elizabeth Woodville, the wife of King Edward the IV and this novel continues the War of the Roses saga.

From Goodreads:

The White Queen tells the story of a woman of extraordinary beauty and ambition who, catching the eye of the newly crowned boy king, marries him in secret and ascends to royalty. While Elizabeth rises to the demands of her exalted position and fights for the success of her family, her two sons become central figures in a mystery that has confounded historians for centuries: the missing princes in the Tower of London whose fate is still unknown. From her uniquely qualified perspective, Philippa Gregory explores this most famous unsolved mystery of English history, informed by impeccable research and framed by her inimitable storytelling skills.

This was a fun quick historical read. I liked learning more about who is who in the history of England and its kings and queens. I like that the protagonists in Philippa Gregory's books are women and that we get to watch history unfold through their eyes and their stories. This book was more about the battles and had a bit less plot than some of her other novels. That said, I did enjoy learning more about the mysterious "Princes in the Tower" a mystery that is still unsolved and I enjoyed Gregory's take on what might have happened. I like this book but I like some of her other novels better. Regardless, I will go on to read the next book in the series The Red Queen.

My Rating: Good. A fun quick read.

9.) Dandelion Wine by Ray Bradbury


Ray Bradbury is a treasure. His writing is gold. I love and adore him. Imagine my delight at finding out that Something Wicked This Way Comes is the second book in a series!? It was like an unexpected gift. I immediately checked it out from the library and began to read. I loved Dandelion Wine. I loved the stories, the characters, the structure...which reads like a collection of short stories that are connected by the character of Douglas Spaulding and his family.

From Goodreads:

The summer of '28 was a vintage season for a growing boy. A summer of green apple trees, mowed lawns, and new sneakers. Of half-burnt firecrackers, of gathering dandelions, of Grandma's belly-busting dinner. It was a summer of sorrows and marvels and gold-fuzzed bees. A magical, timeless summer in the life of a twelve-year-old boy named Douglas Spaulding—remembered forever by the incomparable Ray Bradbury.

Bradbury's writing is unique, beautiful, rich, and poetic. This book is a lovely tribute to the writer's own childhood. It is nostalgic and magical without being overly sentimental. I loved his honest take on youth, aging, and our own mortality. It is a wonderful glimpse of life through the eyes of a 12 year old boy in a small town in the summer of 1928.

I particularly loved the story and friendship of 95 year-old Miss Helen Loomis and the young and admiring newspaper man, Bill Forrester. I loved their connection and his ability to see her as the young beautiful girl that she once was rather than who she has become. The writing is fantastic and it reminded me of my own elderly widowed grandmother and our many conversations about how she never stopped feeling about 25 years old and how she would tell me that her young self was still there but just trapped in the body of an old lady. 

Helen says, in talking about her former youthful self:

"..I haven't seen her for years. I can't even remember what she looks like. I feel her, though. She's safe inside, still alive; the essential swan hasn't changed a feather. Do you know, there are some mornings in spring or fall, when I wake and think, I'll run across the fields into the woods and pick wild strawberries! or I'll swim in the lake, or I'll dance all night until dawn! And then, in a rage, discover I'm in this old and ruined dragon. I'm the princess in the crumbled tower, no way out, waiting for her Prince Charming." (pg. 143)

Such fabulous writing!! 

While I enjoyed all of the stories...my favorite part was...oddly...the introduction entitled: Just This Side of Byzantium. Bradbury discusses his own background, his word-association process and approach to writing and how the memories of his childhood live on. It is really beautiful. 

"The wine still waits in the cellars below. My beloved family still sits on the porch in the dark. The fire balloon still drifts and burns in the night sky of an as yet unburied summer. Why and how? Because I say it is so."

My Rating: A wonderful coming-of-age story written by one of the world's most wonderful writers.


10.) A Discovery of Witches by Deborah Harkness


This book has been on my "to-read" list for years. I finally got around to reading it and can check it off of my list.

From Goodreads:

 In this tale of passion and obsession, Diana Bishop, a young scholar and a descendant of witches, discovers a long-lost and enchanted alchemical manuscript, Ashmole 782, deep in Oxford's Bodleian Library. Its reappearance summons a fantastical underworld, which she navigates with her leading man, vampire geneticist Matthew Clairmont.

I *liked* it but I didn't love it. I definitely don't think it lived up to all of the hype. The Goodreads blurb says that, "Harkness has created a universe to rival Diana Gabaldon...." UM...NO. Not even close. Not even in the same league. But... it was kind of a fun-ish fluffy read...vampires, witches, a love story. You get the idea. 

I thought that the novel got off to an interesting start. The protagonist, Diana, is a historian who studies alchemy. She spends most of her time in a library in London doing research when a mysterious manuscript comes into her hands and all kinds of people start to come into her life who want the manuscript too. The character of Matthew started off interesting and then both he and Diana become boring. Diana isn't just boring (all that sleeping?!?! What the heck?!); she is also sort of unlikeable too. I thought that maybe once their romance got going it would get a little more exciting. Not really. It isn't until the last third of the book that the action begins. There were also some really cheesy parts too; like the aunts' house with a mind of its own. But if you are in the mood for a light mindless beach read...you might enjoy this. I need another beachy read so I just started the second book in the trilogy. So far...not that great.

My Rating: Didn't live up to the hype.

Thursday, May 17, 2018

April: Things I am Loving

April: Things I am Loving

1.) Car Electric Blankets


Tyler got me this for Christmas and it is awesome! An electric blanket for your car! I love it. Tyler is always hot and I am always cold. This does the trick nicely on road trips. This came in really handy when I was a drowned rat at the Oregon Coast. I plugged this baby in and got nice and toasty warm. I love it!!

2.) Kind Breakfast Bars


This is also something that came in handy on our road trip to Oregon. Tyler and I both hate eating fast food...even on road trips. We usually try to plan out our trip with stops at restaurants we like or want to try. When we left for Oregon we left super early in the morning and didn't want to stop for breakfast. We grabbed these Kind Almond Butter Breakfast bars and they were so good! They were perfect for traveling or for a quick breakfast or lunch at home.

3.) My Go-To Nail Polish Color


Stilettos and Studs

You guys I have been wearing this nail polish on my fingernails and toenails for MONTHS! (Yes, I am the person whose toenails must match her fingernails.) I love this color!! It is the perfect charcoal gray with a hint of metallic. (You can see it in the above picture of my car electric blanket.) I don't want to change this color because it is so cool and I am a person who usually changes color every month or so. Although, last summer I did get into a neon pink phase that I loved and will definitely revisit again this summer. I also now follow this genius tip of my friend Mary... I bring in my own nail polish to the nail salon and have them paint my nails with it and do all the magic that they do there...and then I have the color for touch ups if needed. Normally I only use OPI or Essie but Sally Hansen gel is pretty great! I have it in several colors now and I am a fan!


4.) The First Spring Flowers in My Yard.



Finally my yard and garden are waking up! I can't wait for lilacs, peonies, lilies of the valley, and roses!!

5.) Going to the movies







I love going to the movies but there is very rarely anything that I want to see. Maybe one or two movies a year. It's super disappointing. I usually only want to go if there has been a movie made about a book that I have read. This month I saw two movies! Craziness.